What's Your Addiction?

We all have addictions. Some we stop, some stop and start again and some we do daily. What are your addictions?

Addictions speak to us.

The ego chatter mind tells us again and again why we do what we do. Drinking, smoking, eating, exercising, shopping, gambling, studying etc. The ego tells us: You can't-do this, you are not good enough then you start telling yourself stories how you can't-do it or it won’t work and the why’s or the stories: he/she said, wow could you believe that…how judgmental, he/she did take some money…borrowed your car and left it with no gas…, he/she went to …. etc. your mind is on the defense, it changes the stories and keeps you stuck on false judgments.

I know, I’ll feel better when I have my addiction is no longer. (smoking, drinking, shopping etc.) However, taking or doing your addiction keeps us from going within, changing our thoughts, reassuring ourselves vs avoiding our addictions.

You give in to your addiction and have that euphoric feeling all is well. Then the feeling of relief, calmness a false sense of security.

Our addictions give us guilt, why did I do that? Look how much I had??? Wow, I overdid it.

Did you ever notice how much time and energy our addictions take from our lives? How much energy do we put into our ego’s, addictions for false judgments? Is it worth it?

You keep talking to yourself. At some point, you're tired and the feelings of emotions of I did something wrong, the guilt comes to play and you watch your thoughts go by, you're tired of the ego stories. Next comes your heart of emotions.

The heart emotions speak to us and genuinely tells us what we feel, what we truly want or need or to achieve. You start forgiving yourself and at this point, you could make a change, changing your thoughts and emotions a change for the better to be a better you.

Take the addiction of smoking the nicotine and other drugs in the cigarettes keeps the ego going. As the effects wear off you go for another and another. When you stop an addiction and you start again, you start where you lead off and then your addiction cravings and habits double.  It takes more for the effects to get that feeling wanted. At some point, the addiction overcomes the ego and you are lost, you did too much or you change and increase the addiction for an increased effect. Now you are smoking cigarettes with alcohol.

It's understanding how the addiction affects you to make a change for the better. https://lisaonthego.com/

First is to understand addictions have power over us. A false sensation. Once you understand this you then could choose to change, get help and stop. You could also gain the power over the addiction. L.I.D.E. understanding you by labeling the addiction, identifying and describing the emotions.   https://lisaonthego.com/lisaonthego-lide/  https://lisaonthego.com/l-d-e-leedy-part-2-lisaonthego/

 and understand for you and have the power over the addiction.

The choice is yours.

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Have a great day! Love, Laughter & Peace LISAonthego

Loved One Passed Away    

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Loved one passed away family, friend, colleague etc. this is part of life. It’s not easy because we are here to process the loss. Remembering the love, memories, what they meant to us, how they influenced our lives? What did they teach us or what did we learn from them? Etc. When processing the loss, we may have questions and now on our own to draw our own conclusions. This death has LISAonthego reflecting on her life and relationships.

In the beginning of loss LISAonthego’s mind asks, how do we get the through the days? Her answer one moment at a time. Love yourself, be gentle, take the time to go within and heal. In truth LISAonthego doesn’t truly know what we mean to others or what they mean to us until they are not present.

As time goes on and the holidays, anniversaries, birthdays etc. come and go some current relationships change, some for the better, some doors may close and others open. People that knew of us and connected with the decease now could bring a bond to you.

We all process differently, be gentle and kind to yourself. There is no race or finish line to get to, it's finding your peace and healing for you that matters.

It’s a self-realization of your relationship with the deceased and learning more about you.

The lesson for LISAonthego in this journey is people make their own decisions and choices. You either support them or you don’t. However, in either event people choose the paths for themselves whether we agree or disagree. Its forgiving them and you for your judgements of what you thought that may be true or not. It’s our own perceptions. Yes, others will have their own opinions too.

There is never a right or wrong way to grieve, it’s personal that makes sense for you.

Thank you for understanding. LISAonthego this past year has been processing, going within, alone time, being distant, introspecting and finding her way. In retrospect, it's learning about her and grief takes time.

Grief has its own course, learning what is important for you and sometimes this means we take time off or coast through life. Work, activities, meetings, projects are not given the time so you give the time to you, until you find your place and begin again. People may think the type of death warrants a type of grieving and LISAonthego says this is untrue. Whether from a short term or long term illness, accident, suicide, overdose, young or older person etc. Grieving has its own way for each of us and grieving is part of loss. Be you and what resonates for you.

Thank you for your understanding. Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

Perseverance!!!

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Perseverance for LISAonthego is running an obstacle course, you keep going even with the obstacles coming forth.

Why? Because, eventually you persevere where you are to be. In addition, on this path, choices are being made for your life that you choose. Yes, on this path they’re times the path looks bleak then out of nowhere this obstacle breaks open and you achieve what you wanted. It doesn’t necessary look the way you anticipated and yet in your heart its right for you.

LISAonthego is on her path of perseverance.

She keeps going and going. LISAonthego was in a book group, awhile back and read the book, Think and Grow It Rich. The book talks about a person who invested all their funds in finding gold. They worked at it for over year and relented that it is not working: sold everything at $.10 on the dollar; lost confidence, perseverance and gave into the ego chatter mind versus following their heart.

The new company that bought out the business continued to dig in same area. Unbelievable within the month the new company struck gold. It was three feet away. Could you imagine this, being you? You were so close, yet so far and you caved in. This person learned the next time around in his career as an insurance broker to persevere and found success.

LISAonthego is listening to her heart and continuing her path.

The path she is on, is like a rollercoaster. Besides perseverance, she is doing what she loves and loves what she does and feels this is most important.

Life offers challenges and obstacles, we all have them. It’s how we are going handle the challenges and obstacles that we face. This has helped LISAonthego become who she is today.

When is Perseverance enough for you?

LISAonthego answers when you are reacting to the event or situation. You are no longer happy and following your heart; continuously having negative thoughts or it's about being materialistic on things you think you need and you don't; or you need to change for you. Then stop what you are trying to achieve and find another path. Just maybe you came to learn something like the man in the book. His next career as an insurance person he was successful and persevered. Just maybe this had his heart singing helping others vs finding gold and all about the monies.

LISAonthego encountered this when she was a Realtor the ultimate, goal was monies and yes helping others to help find a home. However, with 200 people that are involved in a transaction the theme is monies, money for the professionals involved. She wasn't a good realtor, lol and her heart didn't sing, this career had interfered with her goals that were important to her like raising her family. She went within and is persevering her blogs and website. Loving what she is doing and doing what she loves, also she is living life and life is not living her. This is when you know when a change is necessary.

Have a great day. Love Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

heart is singing & your defensive

Heart is Singing & Your Defensive

What? Your heart is singing and you are being defensive in the same moment. What? What does this mean? Really? How does this happen? LISAonthego attended a Path to Heal group session by phone today and this issue arose. She has been contemplating this all day.

LISAonthego is practicing being direct, specific and detailed in what she wants to create in her life. Remember you are the star in your play to create what you truly want. It doesn’t always play out this way and yet you have the intentions to direct your life.

Now life is coming to fruition for LISAonthego in what she truly wants. She is excited, happy and looking forwards to her new adventure. Yet somehow things go awry. So, when Joanna Chodorowska https://www.nutrition-in-motion.net is engaging in the Path to Heal and the issue comes up to release. Your heart is singing and you are being defensive. We had a discussion on this topic.

The issue of what you truly want is happening and you self-sabotage yourself by being defensive.

Your ego mind comes into play, you can’t do this or that, spend money, take the vacation at that time, hire someone, come out with a new product, buy … clothes, furniture, car, home, food etc. You find ways and give reasons why you can’t.

Self-sabotaging the mind goes into racing mode. Being negative and giving all the reasons why it needs to be different. LISAonthego understands this it’s like you give yourself a diversion, you are at the crossroads and you change the course or complicate it. It’s time to just enjoy go within find your peace. Be thankful and appreciative and lovingly move forwards.

You deserve what you truly want; its learning to stay on the path and simplify. Stop redirecting, accepting diversions to be doing what you want. This is your life do what makes you happy and stay on course. Have a great day.

Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego