Discussion, Understanding and Understood by #LisaOnTheGo
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LisaOnTheGo what is being understood or understanding by others?
They have been times in her life she has been misquoted or misunderstood. #LisaOnTheGo feels she is different than most, more sensitive and is an out-of-the-box thinker and thinks everyone could understand her. Only to find out, that no, the other person took it out of context, gave it there own meaning or didn't understand at all. She is learning to stop herself and truly look at the other person, facial expressions to see if they understood or ask questions.
#LisaOnTheGo thinks everyone thinks like her and interprets things the same way. As you know, with life experience you learn this isn't true. Recently, at a meeting, LisaOnTheGo met and was talking to a career coach about LisaOnTheGo. The ins and outs of the business, the website and then LisaOnTheGo recognized that look. She assumed this person understood the basics of how a website works and videos on a website. In addition, to LisaOnTheGo Blogs, the importance of social media, and website needs.
She recognized that look and the career coach saying they understood websites, in fact, didn’t understand. The upsetting factor for LisaOnTheGo was why did they go along, pretending to know by acknowledging and nodding their heads in the yes position. LisaOnTheGo was uncomfortable in this situation and unbeknownst to them changed subjects.
Life experience has taught LisaOnTheGo to be clear and specific. Whether to understand others or others to understand her. It is then a choice for herself and others to decide whether to continue the conversation or not.
LisaOnTheGo says if people understood you, not accept what you are saying but understood you this is effective communication.
Also, LisaOnTheGo could say she understood the discussion and doesn’t accept it, her opinion, judgement or interpretation. However this is a validation for others that they were understood, you were listening and heard. This is communicating at its best.
Being acknowledged and validated LisaOnTheGo feels is what most people are looking for in a conversation. This is communicating.
Next time you are having a discussion with someone try validating, acknowledging the other person and see how it feels. First for you then truly look at the other person and how it feels for them.
LisaOnTheGo says it feels great to be understood.
Love, Laughter & Peace, LisaOnTheGo